Spoiler alert: you can only invite people who are invited to the wedding. Learn more about these and other etiquette rules for engagement parties.
And remember, if you are thinking to plan during the COVID-19 pandemic, an engagement party, you must comply with the state and local Assembly restrictions and the alignment of events the healthy human mind.
You can do: Find out who will host the engagement party.
Traditionally, the bride’s parents host the engagement party, but nowadays everything is possible – from the groom’s parents to a group of friends or other family members, who take over the reins. Some couples even have two (or more!) Engagement parties, if the families of each of the partners come from completely different Parts of the country or the world.
And if you want to organize your own engagement party, make it simple – many couples arrange your own casual get-togethers with friends to celebrate.
Don’t: Invite people you know that you are not invited to the wedding.
In most cases, the guests probably go on the assumption that you will be invited if you are invited to the engagement party, to the wedding and it is the correct etiquette for the engagement party, to ensure that the two lists are the same. Discuss the guest list with the hosts, before you send out invitations.
You should ensure that all are on the invitation list for this pre-wedding celebration as well as for the actual wedding in agreement.
Don’t: assume that you receive or do not receive gifts.
Guests must bring no gifts to engagement and there is no proper etiquette for engagement, to ask questions directly to gifts. In fact, many couples prefer a policy without gifts, to relieve the pressure on your guests. However, you should expect that at least some of the people want to bring gifts to the Party. You therefore before your registry and wedding website, if you want to buy a gift for you.
Do: Keep it casual.
Here’s the thing. If your and the family of your spouse do not know well, it can be a little uncomfortable – and that’s okay. If you keep the atmosphere is super relaxed (think of a garden barbecue or a casual Restaurant), guests feel more comfortable when you are mixing with each other.
You can do the following: Integrate a virtual component.
Whether due to the COVID-19 pandemic or other reasons, there may be guests who can’t attend their engagement party. We recommend that your engagement party, a virtual Element to add, whether you are hosting a separate event for your virtual guests or a Zoom-Station as part of their personal engagement party to include.
Not: Save the first Meeting your parents for the engagement party.
If you and the parents of your future spouse have not met yet, try to schedule your Meetings before the engagement party, even if it was the night before or the Morning of. Choose a quiet Restaurant (it is neutral territory, in contrast to another house), so that everyone can speak in a peaceful environment – both parties will appreciate it.
Do: Keep the conversation to a minimum.
Save the dance for your wedding, unless you are only with your best friends mad. The goal of your engagement to celebrate it, to allow the people to talk to each other and to listen to actually. Avoid, therefore, is to host the Party in a very noisy Restaurant or to play during the festivities, the super loud music.
Don’t Be shy.
In the first hour of their engagement party might look like a high school dance – a family on the one side, the family on the other side. It is up to you and your future spouse to practice good etiquette for engagement parties, people to introduce, and to promote mixing. For example: It may feel at first a little uncomfortable, but it will make you easy. Before you know it, have a chat to both families like old friends about it!
Do You Send Thank You Notes.
Everyone who attends the engagement party part should be given as to whether he has brought a gift or not, a hand – written letter of thanks for participation. And it’s a nice gesture to write for the host of a note (and perhaps purchase a small gift) – always a good idea to start things in terms of the label on the right foot!